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Oh, dating. It’s a jungle out there. The alternative to dating is not being alone, which is also pretty bleak. So you might as well try your hand at finding someone to share your life with—even if that means dealing with some selfish people along the way! Whether you’re single or in a relationship, here are some signs that your partner might be exhibiting selfish behavior:
Put Yourself First
It’s important to remember that putting yourself first doesn’t mean you’re selfish. In fact, we all need to put ourselves first sometimes—and it’s even more important in a relationship because it shows your partner that they can trust you with their emotions and needs. Being selfish means not caring about anyone but yourself, which is definitely not the case here!
You should be able to put yourself first and still feel loved by your partner. Your partner should also be able to put themselves first at times without feeling guilty about it or thinking that they’re being too “selfish.”
Couples who do this are more likely to have healthy relationships because they aren’t always bending over backward for each other; instead, they’re working together as equals who understand each other’s needs inside and outside the bedroom (or kitchen table).
Focusing Only on Themselves
- Focus on the other person.
- Be a good listener.
- Ask questions and listen to the answers.
- Compliment them and tell them what they mean to you.
- Don’t be afraid to say you love them or that they are sorry, even if it’s not your fault!
Not Worrying About Their Partner’s Emotional Health
It’s important to care about your partner’s emotional health, and a good way to show that you do is by listening to them when they’re down. You should also encourage them to get help if they need it because that is the kind of person you want in your life. If someone has problems that are too much for them to handle on their own, then it’s up to everyone around them (including you) to make sure those problems don’t get out of hand.
The best way for me and my friends, not just as individuals but as couples, is simple: Be there for each other when we need support or encouragement!
Believing They Have a Right to be Treated Like Royalty
- Don’t treat your partner like a servant.
- Don’t expect them to do everything for you.
- Don’t expect them to be perfect, and don’t take it personally when they aren’t.
- Don’t expect them to be your friend as well as your partner—they probably won’t want to hear about all the fun things you did with your friends last night if they didn’t have anything similar happen with theirs! Be mindful of this and try not to rub it in their face too much when it does happen!
Putting Down Their Partner Publicly
Some people have no problem publicly putting down their partner in front of others.
This is a sign of disrespect and can make your partner feel bad about themselves and their relationship.
Aiming to Control Their Partner’s Behavior
If you find yourself in a controlling relationship, it’s because someone is making decisions for you. They don’t want to hear what you have to say, and they always make the final call.
If this sounds like your life, it may be time to consider whether or not your partner is controlling their behavior toward you.
Here are some signs that they are:
- They tell you what to wear and what food to eat.
- They regularly check up on where you are and who you’re with (or at least ask questions about it).
Ignoring Household Chores and Childcare
In a relationship, it’s important to share household chores and childcare responsibilities. It’s not fair if one partner does all the cleaning and cooking while the other parent deals with all the child-rearing alone. Both partners should pitch in and help out whenever possible.
If you’re not sure how to divvy up responsibilities, here are some basic guidelines:
- Men generally do more physical work around the house (like yard work or car maintenance), while women handle more emotional tasks (like organizing closets). Of course, this isn’t always true! You may have an extremely athletic man who can do anything from changing diapers to mowing lawns—or perhaps your wife has grown up doing all kinds of home improvement projects on her own. So don’t feel like there are hard-and-fast rules about who does what around your home; if something doesn’t quite fit within these general guidelines, talk it over with your partner until you come up with something that works well for both of you!
Expecting Their Partner to Give Them Something in Return for Every Good Thing They Do or Gift They Give
You do nice things for your partner because you love them or because you want to make them feel good. But don’t expect something in return! Just do the nice things and let the other person feel like they are doing something nice for you, not that you are doing something nice for them.
Just because someone gives you a gift doesn’t mean they expect one back. It’s okay to want to give back, but if every time your partner does something nice for you (like buying dinner) then it puts pressure on the other person to do something equally as thoughtful or expensive. This can lead to resentment on both sides if one partner feels they have given more than they received.
Manipulating Their Partner into Making Bad Decisions or Doing Things They Don’t Want To Do
Another form of selfishness is manipulation. Manipulation involves using guilt, emotional blackmail, and other forms of pressure to get your partner to do something you want them to do. This is very selfish behavior if you’re trying to control someone’s life or decisions by manipulating them. It’s also one that many people engage in without realizing how unhealthy it is for the relationship overall.
There are several ways that people can be manipulative:
- They use guilt to get what they want from their partner; if the person doesn’t comply with what they ask, then he/she will make them feel guilty about it (e.g., “You should’ve helped me carry my bags upstairs!”). This type of manipulation works well when people feel vulnerable after recently getting into an argument with their significant others because they know how sensitive we can be now! But if we allow ourselves.
You want a relationship that is about given and take and mutual respect.
The best relationships are about giving and taking mutual respect and a willingness to work through problems. If you want that kind of relationship, then do not be selfish. Do not put yourself first or focus only on yourself. Do not worry about your partner’s emotional health (they must care for themselves). And do not believe that you have the right to be treated like royalty.
Conclusion
We hope that by reading this article, you can better understand how to be a good partner in your relationship. If you find yourself doing any of the abovementioned things, it’s important to stop and think about what you’re doing. Remember: Relationships should be built on mutual respect and trust, not manipulation or selfishness!
